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Be Honest With Yourself: Honor Thy Father and Mother

By: Ardis E. Parshall - January 24, 2011

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From 1958 —

Honor Thy Father and Mother

The word “honor” is one of the richest in the language. It implies “esteem,” “reverence,” “respect,” “courtesy,” “integrity,” “purity,” “chastity” – and much more.

“To honor” also requires obedience – to obey and respect those we would honor.

The commandment “Honor thy father and thy mother” encompasses all of these and it promises much for obedience. Paul called it “the first commandment with a promise.” And what a promise, as we shall see!

But first there’s your part to be done, young men and young women of the Church.

Let’s begin with the little things. How long has it been, you teen-aged daughter, since you took your mother in your arms and thanked her for life and the countless kind deeds she has performed for you since birth?

Or you, son, when did you last thank Dad for food, clothing, home, education, the use of his car, and wise counsel?

Do you, our sons and daughters, honor your parents in your choice of good companions, in your seen and unseen conduct, in church attendance, in the sharing of home work, in self-improvement, in keeping the faith?

These are the daily ways you can please and honor parents.

And what are the rewards for honoring them?

First, there’s joy and inward satisfaction for you. These blessings come automatically. then there’s the Lord’s special promise that you will “live long on the earth” and that “it may go well with you.”

What a promise; what a prospect! To do less than to obey this commandment, to receive less in return, would be to deprive yourself of one of the richest experiences in life.




  1. forwarding this one to my children. :-)

    Comment by ellen — January 24, 2011 @ 12:10 pm

  2. Ha!

    Comment by Ardis E. Parshall — January 24, 2011 @ 12:18 pm

  3. Fortunately, I have wonderful parents. But I think this could be awkward if the youth had less-than-stellar parents, or were abusive, or simply encouraged a lifestyle not in harmony with the gospel.

    I hope it wasn’t as insensitive then as it seems it would be now.

    Comment by Clark — January 24, 2011 @ 3:07 pm

  4. I suppose it’s like so many other social factors — do you teach to and speak of the ideal, or do you avoid the ideal entirely for fear of insensitivity, or do you find some compromise that acknowledges that the ideal isn’t universal? and if so, what compromise?

    The commandment to honor parents and the blessing for it seem universal, even if the individual case might be difficult or impossible.

    Comment by Ardis E. Parshall — January 24, 2011 @ 3:28 pm

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