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From 1960 –
Going Steady Too Early?
Jill’s a teenager – about sixteen. She’s pretty and popular. She has girl friends galore and can get “dates” by the dozen. Everybody likes Jill – lucky Jill.
Then along comes Freddy. Freddy’s lucky, too. He has a rich dad, a new sports car, plenty of money. He’s a good talker, a good looker, a good dresser, a good spender. Yes, Freddy seems to have everything – everything, that is, but Jill. He wants Jill, too.
So, Freddy dates Jill. They become good friends. Too bad they can’t keep it that way. But neither Freddy nor Jill wants just to be friends. So they agree to go steady.
From now on Jill must dance all her dances with Freddy. No other boy can take her out. At school, at parties, at church, wherever young people go together, Jill and Freddy are “exclusive” – they’re exclusively for each other. She’s his and he’s hers – while the rest of the world goes by.
Several years pass swiftly. Jill and Freddy are still going steady. For Jill, the friendship of other girls has all but vanished. Other boys no longer ask her out, and she wouldn’t be free to go with them if they did. It’s the same for Freddy; the same monopoly; the same monotony.
Happy ending? Maybe. But even if they marry happily, they’ll somehow know secretly that they’ve both missed a lot in not growing up with the crowd.
Besides, going steady too young holds real hazards for youth: it wastes time and energy at the expense of self-improvement; it often leads to hasty marriages and the quitting of school before one’s education has been completed; and, tragically, step by step it sometimes leads to the giving and taking of liberties which breed contempt – or maybe worse.
So, Jill and Freddy, and Jane and Eddy,
What’s your hurry about going steady?
BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF