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Be Honest With Yourself: No, Thank You!

By: Ardis E. Parshall - November 01, 2010

(See here for background)

From 1958 —

No, Thank You!

How should you answer the person who invites you to “take a cigarette” or “have a drink” – or do anything which is against your conscience or contrary to the teachings of your Heavenly Father?

What should you say? How much do you need to explain or apologize? When, if ever, should you compromise just a little for the sake of appearances?

The answer is easy. Just say “No – no, thank you.” Don’t waver. Don’t worry about how others may think or act. Be your own natural, honest self. Everyone admires sincerity.

If the invitation to indulge in something you don’t believe in comes from a host or hostess while you are a guest, your answer will come even easier. The obligation of courtesy is not that of the guest but of the host.

The gracious host will never press you, never question your right to be yourself in matters of conscience. He will admire you for your forthright stand.

It’s natural to want to be liked by the crowd. But compromising with principles is always wrong, often dangerous.

What is right? What is wrong? Fortunately, there are ways for members of the Church to recognize right from wrong. Read the Scriptures; listen to the teachings of your Church leaders. And listen, also, to the whisperings of that “still, small voice.” When it whispers “It’s wrong; don’t do it!” – say firmly, honestly, finally: “No, thank you – no!”




  1. Keep it simple. KISS

    Comment by Joseph Smidt — November 1, 2010 @ 11:26 am

  2. we sometimes think an explanation is due. it isn’t.

    Comment by ellen — November 1, 2010 @ 11:30 am

  3. I like it a lot…

    Comment by psychochemiker — November 1, 2010 @ 12:17 pm

  4. I like the emphasis on being gracious, as opposed to condemning the host and leaving the party immediately, which seems more along the lines of how things are taught now.

    Comment by kew — November 1, 2010 @ 12:22 pm

  5. I also like the reminder to be gracious. My experience on four continents is that a gracious refusal has never been questioned.

    Comment by Paul — November 1, 2010 @ 2:23 pm

  6. Yes, the reminder to include a “thank you” with the “no” is wonderful.

    Comment by David Y. — November 1, 2010 @ 2:56 pm

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